Association of Little People of Alberta

Advice

Kid Tips

There's been a lot of discussion over the years about the proper way to refer to a child with dwarfism. Many people who have the condition prefer the term "little person" or "person of short stature." For some, "dwarf" is acceptable. For most, "midget" definitely is not. But here's an idea everyone can agree on: Why not simply call a person with dwarfism by his or her name?

• Treat your child in an age appropriate manner and have them help with chores. This will help your child build a sense of independence, and self-esteem.
• Except your child's limitations and provide them with the tools needed to accomplish tasks on their own. Simple things like step stools, light switch extenders, and lower handrails can give a short-statured child independence around the house.
• Be clear and consistent when disciplining all of your children. Your short-statured child should not have an easier set of rules to follow. This helps siblings have a sense of equality.
• Learn to deal with people's reactions, whether it's simple curiosity or insensitive comments, without anger. Present your child's condition - both to your child and to others - as a difference rather than a hindrance. A simple but true medical approach works well for young children. For example, you may tell your child that he or she is small because their bones are small. Then take a moment to point out something special about your child, beautiful eyes, charming smile, personal accomplishments. Show that you notice all the other qualities that make him or her unique. Speak with a positive attitude, be respectful and informative in simple terms and speak from the heart. This will provide your child with a good sense of self-worth and prepare him or her for dealing with these situations when you are not there.
• Encourage your child to socialize or play with other children. Show them the value of sharing, kindness, and friendship. Good social skills will give your child the ability to make friends.
• If your child is teased at school, don't overlook it. Talk to teachers and administrators to make sure your child is getting the support he or she needs.
• Encourage your child to find a hobby or activity to enjoy. If sports aren't going to be your child's forte, then maybe music, art, computers, writing, or photography will be.
• Also do fun things as a family. Think of activities that everyone can do together such as playing games, swimming, and going to events in your community.
• Finally, get involved with support associations like the Little People of America. Getting to know other people with dwarfism - both as peers and mentors - can show your child just how much he or she can achieve.